A neurodivergent coach serving neurodiverse families
Hi, I'm Christian Vinceneux
I'm a neurodivergent parent coach and former Occupational Therapist with over 30 years of experience supporting neurodivergent children, teens, adults, and their families.
Over the years, one thing became clear:
The same strategy that worked beautifully for one child didn't work for another. That's why my work is about helping families better understand what's driving their child's challenges so we can co-create approaches that fit their child, their family, and their values.
How I Work With Families
Family Centered
Your child's challenges affect the whole family. Together, we'll find approaches that fit your child, your family, and your values—not someone else's idea of what should work.
Neuro Affirming
We'll work to better understand what's driving your child's challenges, support their regulation, and find ways to help them become more confident, independent, and successful with the things they find difficult.
Collaborative
I won't hand you a one-size-fits-all plan. We'll combine my experience with what you know about your child to co-create approaches that make sense for your family.
What changed for these families
When we started working together, Edward was close to, or in burnout. Doing the basics was extremely difficult, and it felt like there was no way for us to communicate with him... Eating, going outside, or going potty were huge obstacles most of the time. It was tough! We were familiar with Christian's work, and we loved his approach, still, we couldn't imagine how progress would look in the following three months. Now that we've completed Christian's program, the difference is night and day! Edward is more independent, open to new experiences, more communicative, and he's gradually building confidence and trust in himself and in others. We're extremely grateful for working with Christian, as we couldn't have ben here without him. He's helped us truly be there for Edward in the darkest times and offer him what he needs to feel heard and understood. The road ahead is long, but we're more confident than ever, and we're thankful to have a good friend and guide by our side. Thank you Christian!
Alex Hartan
Let me start by saying that Christian is a wonderful human being. He is understanding, kind, and very knowledgeable. Christian can almost effortlessly understand causes and brainstorm solutions to all our problems. Suddenly everything made sense and it seemed our biggest challenges had simple solutions. Everything Christian taught us had Eduard's best interest in mind. It was amazing to see how small changes in our lives and speech/interactions brought enormous changes in Eduard and consequently our lives. Christian has been extremely patient and supportive, which helped us understand our son better and become better parents for him. We feel so fortunate to have him as a parent counselor. His methods and solutions have been extremely effective and they've give us a fresh perspective and renewed enthusiasm.
Alexa Popescu
It was love after the first video!! I stumbled upon Christian's brilliant video about emotional regulation and my wife and I became clients not long after that. We have two neurodivergent children, and Christian offered us the space and the tools to analyze our thoughts and model a better life for them as they grow. It was an organic process and jived well with our parenting style. We are grateful that someone like Christian was there to help guide us. We will be lifelong clients with Christian as our children grow older and we need help. I HIGHLY recommend that you take the time to check out all the content Christian creates, after you do that, just imagine getting that same level of interest and expertise, but 1 on 1... It's a no-brainer.
Greg Richards
Father of two neurodivergent children
We met Christian when my son was mentally struggling with the toll his illness was taking on him, and just had to withdraw him from school. Christian's quiet, thoughtful manner (and amazing beard!) helped my son to overcome his anxiety at meeting people. He helped me understand my son and enabled me to create a constructive space where my we could both connect. I cannot recommend Christian highly enough, he is a child whisperer and the confidence he gave me has helped me to forgive myself for past failures and to understand that we all need to give one another more grace and forgiveness. My son is back running and climbing and regaining his confidence and talking with excitement about going back to school for the end of the year. If you are considering using Christian, don't hesitate — it is the best decision I could have made.
Yvonne Raleigh
Initially we worked with him as an occupational therapist when our son very young, and with Christian's help, he went from needing an aide in school (kindergarten) to being without an aide by 2nd grade. Furthermore, he educated us, as parents, on how to model behavior, guide our son, and support his development. During the next 10 years, our son made significant improvements, but his transition into the teenaged years introduced new challenges involving boundaries, electronics use, and anger issues. We returned to Christian, and over a period of three months, Christian created a very safe and open space for us to creatively explore our issues, gently challenge our thoughts, and create a new way for us to interact with our son and hold him accountable. This was a lot of work on our end, but led to dramatic improvements in our son's behavior, and the tensions in our family relaxed. We all learned to give each other grace but also hold each other accountable. We are forever grateful to Christian and will always have him on speed dial to help us as we continue to grow and learn as a family.
Anna-Maria Hays Putnam
Christian's specialty in supporting neuro divergent kids and parents stood out to me as someone who could uniquely help me understand and support my child as well as us nervous parents. We have been given a lot of tools and methods for communicating and supporting our child in navigating life without shaming or blaming! We've been able to navigate tantrums, boundaries and help her in her relationships. He is kind and supportive and focuses on what works for your family's needs. Not what is conventionaly proper.
Mindy Worel
When I met Christian, my son was struggling with "traditional" therapies. The techniques, strategies, and parenting skills that Christian taught me made sense and really helped me and my son. When my son and I have a "dispute", his solution would be "let's talk to Mr. Chris" because of his deep trust. But now, my son and I have excellent communication skills with each other and work out our issues through conversations and reflections. My mother often says how grateful she is for my work with Christian as she sees how much it has helped our entire family. I will never forget when I passed the California Bar Exam in 2014. I told my mother and son, and then emailed Christian — I had so much gratitude for this wonderful man that I felt he truly contributed to my success. I’ve accomplished so many things that I don't know how I ever would have without him. Christian helped connect the dots in complex problems, and he’s given me the tools to be the best version of me. Through working with Christian, my self-confidence, self-awareness, and self-acceptance has grown. Christian is kind, receptive, intelligent, and he makes me laugh when I really didn't think it was possible.
Michelanne Hrubic
Mother of son diagnosed with Autism
Christian helped me and my husband figure out what type of parents we want to be. We had some specific issues with our toddler that we needed support on, and Christian gave us gentle, respectful tools and exercises to try. These gave us a sense of purpose and focus because we were taking control of the situation, but most importantly they were fun for our son. He responded brilliantly every time and while things are of course not perfect we all feel more confident and relaxed. Christian is kind, thoughtful and intuitive, he listens deeply and made us feel like we were already good parents, we just needed a little extra support from an expert. He blends traditional coaching techniques of listening and asking thought provoking questions with his experience of knowledge of children and their development. I highly recommend working with Christian!
Jennifer Elworthy
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Many of the parents I work with have already read the books, tried different strategies, and worked with a variety of professionals. Some things may have improved, but they're still left wondering why certain challenges keep coming back.
Rather than offering one more strategy to add to the list, my goal is to help you better understand what's driving the challenges you're seeing. Once we make sense of what's happening beneath the surface, it becomes much easier to find approaches that fit your child, your family, and your values.
I also believe that you know your child in ways no one else does. My role isn't to tell you how to raise your child. It's to combine my experience with what you already know so we can co-create approaches that make sense for your family.
Absolutely.
Many of the families I work with don't have a formal diagnosis yet. Some are waiting for an evaluation, some are exploring whether their child might be neurodivergent, and some families simply choose not to seek a formal diagnosis.
Coaching isn't about the diagnosis itself. It's about understanding your child's unique needs, making sense of the challenges you're experiencing, and finding approaches that fit your family.
I primarily work with parents raising ADHD and Autistic children, from early childhood through adulthood.
Many of the families I support have already tried different strategies or worked with other professionals. Some things may have improved, but they're still looking for a better understanding of what's driving their child's challenges and how to support them in ways that fit their family.
I also work directly with some neurodivergent teens and adults who are looking for support with everyday life, relationships, work, or wellbeing.
My primary focus is coaching parents because they're with their child every day. Small changes in how parents understand and respond to challenging situations can have a meaningful impact across many areas of a child's life.
Rather than working with your child for an hour each week, my goal is to help you better understand what's driving their challenges and feel more confident supporting them in everyday life.
I also work directly with some neurodivergent teens and adults who are looking for support with everyday life, relationships, work, or wellbeing.
You know your child in ways no one else does.
By combining your insights with my experience supporting neurodivergent children and families, we can often identify patterns, understand what's contributing to challenging situations, and find approaches that fit your child and your family.
Sometimes a small detail about when a behavior happens, what happened beforehand, or how your child responds in different situations can completely change how we understand what's going on.
That's why I spend so much time helping parents slow things down, look beneath the surface, and make sense of situations that often seem confusing or unpredictable.
You do.
Every family comes with different questions, priorities, and challenges. Some parents want help with meltdowns or transitions. Others want to better understand school struggles, anxiety, independence, or sibling dynamics.
At the beginning of each session, we'll decide together what feels most important. My role is to listen, ask thoughtful questions, help you interpret what you're seeing, identify patterns, think through possible explanations, and work with you to problem-solve and find approaches that fit your child and your family.
Many parents tell me they leave our conversations seeing the situation in a completely different way than when they arrived.
I'd actually want you to tell me.
If something doesn't feel realistic, doesn't fit your family's values, or simply isn't working, that's important information. Together, we'll explore why, think through other possibilities, and adjust our approach until we find something that feels like a better fit.
One-size-fits-all strategies rarely work because every child, every parent, and every family is different. My goal isn't to convince you to follow a particular strategy. It's to help you better understand your child and make informed decisions that feel right for your family.
You wouldn't be the first parent to tell me that.
Many parents have worked with professionals who gave them advice that didn't feel realistic, didn't fit their family, or left them feeling judged when it didn't work.
That's not how I coach.
I see coaching as a collaboration. You know your child in ways no one else does. I bring over 30 years of experience supporting neurodivergent children and families. Together, we'll make sense of what's happening, explore different possibilities, and co-create approaches that fit your child, your family, and your values.
I'm not looking for the "right" answer. I'm looking for the answer that's the best fit for your family. My goal is to help you feel more confident in the decisions you make as a parent.
That's more common than you might think.
It's not unusual for parents to have different perspectives, parenting styles, or levels of interest in coaching. We can still do meaningful work together, even if only one parent is participating.
Often, as one parent begins to better understand their child and respond differently, it can have a positive impact on the whole family. If your partner becomes interested later on, they're always welcome to join future sessions.
Every family is different, so there's no single answer.
Some parents leave the very first session feeling like they understand their child in a completely different way. Having a new perspective and a realistic plan often brings a renewed sense of hope and confidence.
As we continue working together, parents often come back saying they noticed positive changes after trying some of the approaches we discussed. Sometimes it's a smoother transition, fewer power struggles, or a child responding differently than before. Other times, they simply feel calmer and more confident in how they're approaching a situation.
Lasting change usually happens gradually. As we continue identifying patterns, making adjustments, and learning what works best for your child and your family, those small changes often build on one another over time.
My goal isn't to help you find a quick fix. It's to help you better understand your child so you can continue making thoughtful decisions long after our coaching ends.
Not at all.
Coaching isn't meant to replace therapy or other services. In fact, it often complements them.
Parents are often trying to integrate advice from multiple professionals while also figuring out what works in everyday life. Together, we'll make sense of those different perspectives and identify what makes the most sense for your child, your family, and your values.
The goal isn't to replace the important work your child's providers are doing. It's to help you bring everything together with greater clarity and confidence.
In most cases, no.
Parent coaching is generally not covered by health insurance. Some families receive funding through other programs or organizations, but this varies depending on where you live and your individual circumstances.
Find calm and relief for the whole family
My goal isn't perfection.
It's helping families experience fewer struggles, stronger relationships, and more confidence moving forward.